Practice What I Preach?
Last week I asked someone to help me do something. While that might not sound like a big deal, it is. Sometimes I call “flipping the coin” and being the exact opposite of codependent “recovery.” I...
View ArticleDrain Pain
No, I don’t mean a clogged kitchen sink or a shower stall that empties slowly. I’m talking about allowing people, places and things to slowly and insidiously creep in and begin sucking the soul,...
View ArticleHow Much Can You Receive?
The question posed by this Blog’s title doesn’t mean, How much mistreatment can you take before doubling over in pain and then exploding in a crazed rage while the Other Person says, “See how crazy...
View ArticleHow to Protect Your Energy
Just as we strive to protect and conserve earth’s energy resources, we can strive to protect and conserve our own. Become more aware of the impact of things, people, and activities on you and your...
View ArticleDeveloping Healthy Tolerance
Many of us are skilled at denying and discounting what hurts us. We may endure a particular situation, telling ourselves repeatedly it’s not that bad; we shouldn’t be so demanding; it’ll change any...
View ArticleBoundaries
Sometimes, life and people seem to push and push. Because we are so used to pain, we may tell ourselves it doesn’t hurt. Because we are so used to people controlling and manipulating us, we may tell...
View ArticleUse Your Creativity in Saying When
Grace was the single parent of a seventeen-year-old son—Shawn. Shawn was charismatic, powerful, strong-willed, intelligent, and chemically dependent. Grace loved Shawn deeply. But she also felt...
View ArticleBeing Right
Recovery is not about being right; it’s about allowing ourselves to be who we are and accepting others as they are. That concept can be difficult for many of us if we have lived in systems that...
View ArticleRecognize Manipulations
Herein lies an irony: the person who is trying to manipulate you views you as having greater strength or power than he or she does. — George H. Green and Carolyn Cotter, Stop Being Manipulated George...
View ArticleLiving with Families
I was forty-six years old before I finally admitted to myself and someone else that my grandfather always managed to make me feel guilty, angry, and controlled. —Anonymous We may love and care about...
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